Letting Go of Being Right

Life has taught me that if I want to rise, I have to get over myself.

This seems to be a constant lesson in my life. They say that EGO is (E)dging (G)od (O)ut. Whether you believe in God or not, it doesn’t matter. Another word for God is Love. So EGO could be perceived as choosing fear over love, or self-importance over humility.

I believe that the only free will we truly have is to choose to connect with Love or not. If we choose to connect with Love, life turns upside down at first, but starts to smooth out. If we don’t choose to connect with Love, we experience our own personal version of “Hell on Earth”.

One of the ways I have experienced my own personal “Hell on Earth” in the past was not being able to admit when I was in the wrong. My prideful EGO used to just hang on to being right at any cost. On the surface I couldn’t stand the thought of being wrong, it was “ME” after all. You know what I’m talking about, that voice in your head that thinks it’s all-important. We all have one; I’m just being courageous or silly enough to admit I have one. But thankfully, that voice is MUCH dimmer now.

Wayne Dyer once said, “It’s more important to be kind than to be right.” When I first heard this statement, I thought he must be wrong. But as I have come to find out, KINDNESS is always right.

Have you ever wanted so badly to win an argument in a relationship, but what you come to find out later is that your stubborn desire to win that argument actually ended the relationship? Oops. Yup, I’ve done that.

Today, no matter what that pesky ego says, choose kindness over being right. Choosing kindness is the same thing as choosing to connect to Love. End your inner conflicts and let go of the need to be right. This may feel like you are giving up some very important point of view and that you have “lost” a battle or debate. But, my friend, what you will see and what I have come to see, is that when you lose the ego battle, you win the battle of the Heart. You trade stress in for peace of mind.

So, let’s allow ourselves to lose the ego battle today. Even though our egos don’t want us to, let’s choose kindness over being right. You won’t die, even if it feels like you might. But you will find peace. Try it. Let me know how it goes…

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Don’t Stand Down

In what ways do you make yourself wrong?

I don’t know about you, but there are tons of ways for me to make myself wrong.

No matter how hard I try, even when my intentions are pure, I am queen of making myself wrong when my actions don’t please someone else. Even when in my heart I know my actions are pure, when someone really disagrees with me, or my actions cause someone else to react in anger, I’ve immediately toned down what I was saying. I also tend to apologize, even if I don’t mean it, because I would have rather had peace than friction.

But life is teaching me a different lesson. LIFE is teaching me to not back down because of fear of friction or disagreement. In fact, I’m learning that it is VITAL to hold firm to what you believe in and not back down just because someone else disagrees.

IT’S OUR DUTY TO SHINE OUR LIGTHS

My perception used to be that because I was Seeker on this JOURNEY, that my job was to never ruffle feathers, apologize when “I made” someone angry and in some ways just be a push over because I didn’t want “conflict”. But that view is changing now…

I have come to believe that non-violent friction, non-violent disagreement and challenging the status quo in a non-violent way is actually a great thing. I’ve realized that many of the folks we look up to today, who ushered in massive social and spiritual change, were all very disturbing to the status quo and the stories people were telling about their lives.

Now, I’m not suggesting you be so stubborn as to not leave room for growth or to be so blind to what you believe that you can’t get new information and then change your mind.

But I am suggesting that as Seeker on this JOURNEY the duty is to hold strong to what you believe in, even if it ruffles feathers, even if it disturbs the status quo. That’s what we Seekers do. We are tapped into a truth or a vision that has not yet reached the mainstream. And many times our visions and our ideas can be perceived as a “threat” to the authority of the day. The “authority” could be a controlling and abusive government, or it could be a family member, lover or even just your own fear and ego.

The more I walk on this JOURNEY, the more I see that it’s our job to not stand down because what we say and do challenges the status quo. No, I believe it is our duty to stand up and be firm in our beliefs and that progress, innovation and conscious evolution are brought about by Seekers who didn’t stand down.

Did Rosa Parks stand down? Did MLK stand down? Did Harvey Milk stand down? Did Jesus stand down? Did America’s forefather’s stand down?

No.

And our world is a better place because they didn’t.

Peaceful, non-violent disturbance has pushed the world forward since the beginning of Man. Your job dear Seeker, if you have the courage to accept it, is to not stand down. Hold a space of love, of progress and of unwavering conviction to the truths of your heart.

Don’t stand down.

When Things Go Wrong

When things go wrong,

as they sometimes will,

When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,

When the funds are low and the debts are high,

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit-

Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,

As every one of us sometimes learns,

And many a fellow turns about

When he might have won had he stuck it out.

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow –

You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than

It seems to a faint and faltering man;

Often the struggler has given up

When he might have captured the victor’s cup;

And he learned too late when the night came down,

How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out –

The silver tint in the clouds of doubt,

And you never can tell how close you are,

It might be near when it seems afar;

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit –

It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.