Letting Go of Being Right

Life has taught me that if I want to rise, I have to get over myself.

This seems to be a constant lesson in my life. They say that EGO is (E)dging (G)od (O)ut. Whether you believe in God or not, it doesn’t matter. Another word for God is Love. So EGO could be perceived as choosing fear over love, or self-importance over humility.

I believe that the only free will we truly have is to choose to connect with Love or not. If we choose to connect with Love, life turns upside down at first, but starts to smooth out. If we don’t choose to connect with Love, we experience our own personal version of “Hell on Earth”.

One of the ways I have experienced my own personal “Hell on Earth” in the past was not being able to admit when I was in the wrong. My prideful EGO used to just hang on to being right at any cost. On the surface I couldn’t stand the thought of being wrong, it was “ME” after all. You know what I’m talking about, that voice in your head that thinks it’s all-important. We all have one; I’m just being courageous or silly enough to admit I have one. But thankfully, that voice is MUCH dimmer now.

Wayne Dyer once said, “It’s more important to be kind than to be right.” When I first heard this statement, I thought he must be wrong. But as I have come to find out, KINDNESS is always right.

Have you ever wanted so badly to win an argument in a relationship, but what you come to find out later is that your stubborn desire to win that argument actually ended the relationship? Oops. Yup, I’ve done that.

Today, no matter what that pesky ego says, choose kindness over being right. Choosing kindness is the same thing as choosing to connect to Love. End your inner conflicts and let go of the need to be right. This may feel like you are giving up some very important point of view and that you have “lost” a battle or debate. But, my friend, what you will see and what I have come to see, is that when you lose the ego battle, you win the battle of the Heart. You trade stress in for peace of mind.

So, let’s allow ourselves to lose the ego battle today. Even though our egos don’t want us to, let’s choose kindness over being right. You won’t die, even if it feels like you might. But you will find peace. Try it. Let me know how it goes…

Love More

Love does not withhold, it does not play games, it does not need to be right.

 

Love is a constant flow of giving and receiving. It is not enough to love yourself.

 

Loving yourself is an important and vital first step, but loving yourself alone will eventually lead to plain old narcissism.

 

For love to be complete it’s gotta be shared. For love to be complete it’s gotta be given and received.

 

There are a lot of people out there who say “I’m doin’ me”, or “I’m just lovin’ myself” and I say congratulations! But here’s a warning: Don’t love yourself only; if you do, you will wither and die a spiritual death.

 

Sometimes, loving yourself can be a wall to hide behind the willingness to be vulnerable. Love requires vulnerability to flow. Without vulnerability, love cannot grow and love cannot flow.

 

It takes a strong person to love themselves, especially if they have lived their whole life NEVER loving themselves. But know that loving yourself is a first step; it is not the destination.

 

A relationship based on love is a constant giving and receiving by each person. You will not lose yourself in a balanced relationship, because the right one for you will also support your needs; it can’t be otherwise.

 

The key is to pick the right person, and that takes courage. The right person will challenge you. The right person will scare you. The right person will demand the best of you and call you on your inconsistencies. But the right person will also be willing to work through problems when they arise, instead of bailing!