LOVE is a Choice

LOVE is more than a feeling. LOVE is a state of being, a choice, a verb and, when chosen, a very powerful force on your Journey.

When you choose to love someone, you love them even when you don’t necessarily like them from time to time. Love transcends moods, circumstances or money. The choice you make to love someone unconditionally is one of the highest choices you can ever make.

If you make your intention to enter into relationships with the mindset “How may I serve” and “How can I grow”, instead of “what can I get”, that intention will reveal to you so many wonderful things.

The promise of loving someone isn’t that they will stay with you for the rest of your life; the promise of loving someone is that you will learn so much about yourself. Many times we have to go through a lot of different relationships to understand what we really want and who we really are. It is through the pain of relationships ending that we truly learn about ourselves and why we make the choices we do.

It is only by wholeheartedly loving the people we choose to be in relationship with that we can see how deep and real the relationship is. If you’re in a relationship with someone who doesn’t enjoy you being in your power, then the lesson isn’t that they are a jerk; ask yourself why you chose to be with someone like that.

It is only by loving deeply that we can live meaningfully and learn about ourselves. Don’t live to avoid the pain of heartbreak. Instead live with your heart wide open and let yourself learn the lessons love is trying to teach you. If you don’t learn the lesson, you’ll just keep attracting the same person in different shoes.

But if you learn the lessons, do the work, and keep your heart open – each relationship will get better and better until you finally find someone that you really gel with – you will find your life partner.

So, today, live openly. Learn the lessons from relationships of the past. Keep your heart open and know that each time it breaks, it’s not getting weaker, it’s actually getting stronger and wiser.

Finally, don’t seek out the perfect lover. Don’t chase love. There is nothing and no one to chase. Spend your time being a person who is worthy of being loved and love will be yours in the perfect time.

Learn the lessons. Stop the chase. Open up. Get busy being love-able and all love-able things will flow to you. This is the promise of LOVE!


Welcome Your Summer Soltice

This is summer’s height, midsummer, the longest day and the shortest night of the earth’s solar year. Here we celebrate the completion of the cycle that began at the winter solstice. In the midst of the longest day of the year, we simultaneously begin our return to the dark half of the year.
Solstice means “standing of the sun” and we can connect to this great turning point in the earth’s yearly cycle by taking a moment to stop, be still and look back at our own unique journey since the winter solstice. From now to the winter solstice everything in earth will be withdrawing within.


I challenge everyone to use this time to focus on what you wish to nurture and develop in yourselves during the coming months. The summer solstice is a doorway into the second half of the year, energizing the paths that lead within.


Stand on the threshold and ask yourself what you wish to encourage in your life!


Summer solstice is a time for celebrating the fertility of the earth. Stimulate your own creative juices, like exploring the significance of the Yin Yang symbol. Traditionally this is a time for lighting bonfires and staying up all night to see the sun rise. Either way make sure you celebrate the longest day and the shortest night of the year!


How do you plan to live the second half of the year?


I will not live an unlived life. I will not live in fear of falling or catching fire. I choose to inhabit my days, to allow my living to open me, to make me less afraid, more accessible, to loosen my heart. Until it becomes a wing, a torch, a promise. I choose to risk my significance; to live. So that which came to me as a seed, goes to the next as a blossom and that which came to me as a blossom, goes on as a fruit.

Removing the word SHOULD….

It’s so important to put the loving first.


Love of yourself and then love of others. People can feel your loving most, not with words, but with actions and presence.


Instead of trying to correct, change or otherwise influence those you love, just meet them where they are, right now, and love them there.


This includes you. Meet yourself where you are. If there is anything you want to change about yourself, first accept where you are and love it. Acceptance and love of where you are, right now, makes change and transformation much easier. Instead of fighting against a negative self-image, you are embracing a positive self-image. As a result, the process of change and transformation is joyful rather than stressful.


Another way to meet yourself and others where you are is to drop the word “should” from your vocabulary. In truth, there is nothing you should have done differently; there is nothing they should have done differently; there is only reality, your acceptance of it as it is, and a gentle transformation of it moment by moment to a more loving state.


When you should all over yourself & others, you have stepped out of love and into fear.


Nestle into self-love and acceptance of the moment. All good things flow to the humble heart that knows all is well and getting better.


So, in your loving today, don’t love them and yourself if they are only the way you want. Love them and yourself where you are right now. Watch what beauty happens

Your Gifts Need to be Shared to the World

Ask for what you want. Think big and ask big. In an infinite world even the largest request is small.

The key is don’t ask from your ego; ask from your heart. The ego asks because it wants to be superior, made larger and more significant. The heart asks because it wishes to share, heal and inspire the world. When you have a large vision and know your purpose, ask for it in all the biggest ways you can. Know that you have value and that your gifts need to be shared with the world.

We actually need you to think big and ask big. It is the gifts that you bring forth from within, from your heart that are inspired by Your Journey that will change, heal and inspire this world. We keep thinking someone else is going to do it, but the truth is, my friend, it is up to YOU to help heal and change your part of the world.

You can’t do that when you’re small. You can’t do that when you’re not living your purpose. You can’t do that if you don’t have the courage to ask for what your heart desires.

Check this out! The gift that you want to give to this world from the depth of your heart will not only increase the quality of your life, it will actually help OTHER people, too. So if you don’t have the self-esteem right now to ask for yourself, ask then for those that will be inspired, moved and healed from your gifts being revealed to the world.

Jesus, in the Gospel of Thomas, said it best – “If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what do you do not bring forth will destroy you.” What you bring forth from your heart will not only save you, my friend, it will help to save our planet as well.

Knowing that, how can you NOT ask for what your heart desires?

The Power of Thoughts

I realized something very different today. Here’s a liberating thought – you don’t have to believe every thought that you think. AND – not every thought that you think is true.

You might be conditioned to think – THIS ALWAYS HAPPENS TO ME.

Or perhaps – I DON’T DESERVE LOVE.

Or even better – I DON’T DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.

Since when did you let thoughts like this run your world? And who said you should believe them? And WHY do you believe them?

Today, here is a practice for you… Just for today, try NOT believing your thoughts. Just notice them.

When you have fearful thoughts, do not react, just notice. When you have thoughts of needing something outside yourself, do not react, just notice. When you have angry thoughts, do not react – just notice. When you have resentful thoughts, do not react, just notice.

If you want to live on this JOURNEY and reach your Highest Potential, it is essential that your awareness, your Soul, your Heart run the show. Do not buy into every thought that your mind believes. When you start to change your life, your mind will still believe the old thoughts and think that the newer and healthier thoughts are “weird”, “lies” or “cheesy”. None of these things are true.

If you want to step into a new way of being, then do not buy into what you think. Instead, learn to silence the mind through meditation (simply sit down for 15 minutes, close your eyes and focus on the breath entering and leaving your nose). When thoughts come up, just notice them and let them go.

It’s liberating to know that not everything you think is true, and it’s even more liberating to know that you have a CHOICE over which thoughts you want to believe.

Your Journey

I know it’s not always easy to walk on the path of your dreams. The ups and downs of the journey are a wonderful dance that guides us towards our deepest desires. As far as I can see, one of the main goals of the journey is to not judge a situation as bad or good, but remain detached.

If you are showing up and acting every day towards the greatest good for yourself and others then trust what shows up today. Know that what is placed at your feet is a special, unique experience just for you and on the other side of this experience is a brand new way of seeing the world.

Love the ups. Love the downs. It’s a journey, this life, love and savor every moment of it.

I trust the path of my journey… I can become whatever I choose… I am exactly where I should be… what about you?


To get the most out of Life, get out there and live it! The lessons you learn through EXPERIENCE will give you a practical knowing that you cannot learn in books, be taught by mentors/gurus or reason through with your friends.


Life is messy and in that mess there is greatness, beauty and a fulfilling LIFE.


Give yourself the freedom to make mistakes by making those mistakes you will LEARN and GROW! Even if it’s negative emotions you can know that within them lies the answer as to why you are experiencing them.


Are you willing to get dirty, mess up and make mistakes? If the answer is yes… you are ready to start living a fulfilling life, right now!  So get out there!