Letting Go of Being Right

Life has taught me that if I want to rise, I have to get over myself.

This seems to be a constant lesson in my life. They say that EGO is (E)dging (G)od (O)ut. Whether you believe in God or not, it doesn’t matter. Another word for God is Love. So EGO could be perceived as choosing fear over love, or self-importance over humility.

I believe that the only free will we truly have is to choose to connect with Love or not. If we choose to connect with Love, life turns upside down at first, but starts to smooth out. If we don’t choose to connect with Love, we experience our own personal version of “Hell on Earth”.

One of the ways I have experienced my own personal “Hell on Earth” in the past was not being able to admit when I was in the wrong. My prideful EGO used to just hang on to being right at any cost. On the surface I couldn’t stand the thought of being wrong, it was “ME” after all. You know what I’m talking about, that voice in your head that thinks it’s all-important. We all have one; I’m just being courageous or silly enough to admit I have one. But thankfully, that voice is MUCH dimmer now.

Wayne Dyer once said, “It’s more important to be kind than to be right.” When I first heard this statement, I thought he must be wrong. But as I have come to find out, KINDNESS is always right.

Have you ever wanted so badly to win an argument in a relationship, but what you come to find out later is that your stubborn desire to win that argument actually ended the relationship? Oops. Yup, I’ve done that.

Today, no matter what that pesky ego says, choose kindness over being right. Choosing kindness is the same thing as choosing to connect to Love. End your inner conflicts and let go of the need to be right. This may feel like you are giving up some very important point of view and that you have “lost” a battle or debate. But, my friend, what you will see and what I have come to see, is that when you lose the ego battle, you win the battle of the Heart. You trade stress in for peace of mind.

So, let’s allow ourselves to lose the ego battle today. Even though our egos don’t want us to, let’s choose kindness over being right. You won’t die, even if it feels like you might. But you will find peace. Try it. Let me know how it goes…

Removing the word SHOULD….

It’s so important to put the loving first.

 

Love of yourself and then love of others. People can feel your loving most, not with words, but with actions and presence.

 

Instead of trying to correct, change or otherwise influence those you love, just meet them where they are, right now, and love them there.

 

This includes you. Meet yourself where you are. If there is anything you want to change about yourself, first accept where you are and love it. Acceptance and love of where you are, right now, makes change and transformation much easier. Instead of fighting against a negative self-image, you are embracing a positive self-image. As a result, the process of change and transformation is joyful rather than stressful.

 

Another way to meet yourself and others where you are is to drop the word “should” from your vocabulary. In truth, there is nothing you should have done differently; there is nothing they should have done differently; there is only reality, your acceptance of it as it is, and a gentle transformation of it moment by moment to a more loving state.

 

When you should all over yourself & others, you have stepped out of love and into fear.

 

Nestle into self-love and acceptance of the moment. All good things flow to the humble heart that knows all is well and getting better.

 

So, in your loving today, don’t love them and yourself if they are only the way you want. Love them and yourself where you are right now. Watch what beauty happens