Letting Go of Being Right

Life has taught me that if I want to rise, I have to get over myself.

This seems to be a constant lesson in my life. They say that EGO is (E)dging (G)od (O)ut. Whether you believe in God or not, it doesn’t matter. Another word for God is Love. So EGO could be perceived as choosing fear over love, or self-importance over humility.

I believe that the only free will we truly have is to choose to connect with Love or not. If we choose to connect with Love, life turns upside down at first, but starts to smooth out. If we don’t choose to connect with Love, we experience our own personal version of “Hell on Earth”.

One of the ways I have experienced my own personal “Hell on Earth” in the past was not being able to admit when I was in the wrong. My prideful EGO used to just hang on to being right at any cost. On the surface I couldn’t stand the thought of being wrong, it was “ME” after all. You know what I’m talking about, that voice in your head that thinks it’s all-important. We all have one; I’m just being courageous or silly enough to admit I have one. But thankfully, that voice is MUCH dimmer now.

Wayne Dyer once said, “It’s more important to be kind than to be right.” When I first heard this statement, I thought he must be wrong. But as I have come to find out, KINDNESS is always right.

Have you ever wanted so badly to win an argument in a relationship, but what you come to find out later is that your stubborn desire to win that argument actually ended the relationship? Oops. Yup, I’ve done that.

Today, no matter what that pesky ego says, choose kindness over being right. Choosing kindness is the same thing as choosing to connect to Love. End your inner conflicts and let go of the need to be right. This may feel like you are giving up some very important point of view and that you have “lost” a battle or debate. But, my friend, what you will see and what I have come to see, is that when you lose the ego battle, you win the battle of the Heart. You trade stress in for peace of mind.

So, let’s allow ourselves to lose the ego battle today. Even though our egos don’t want us to, let’s choose kindness over being right. You won’t die, even if it feels like you might. But you will find peace. Try it. Let me know how it goes…

When the Going Gets Tough… Look for Faith!

Keep the faith. Just keep it.

Holding firm in your belief about the life you want and taking action from that place creates miracles. The ride may be rocky. Times may sometimes be tough.

Things might not always work out the way you want them to, but if you keep the faith that your ideal scene in life is possible and never give up, soon enough it will come around to you.

There is always hope. When you want to give up, when all seems lost, when there seems to be no reason to keep going – THIS MOMENT – is the moment to press on ONE more day. It is those who press on beyond the low points in life that push through that barrier of resistance into a seemingly magical world.

Faith is where it begins. Acting on your faith is how it happens. You do not have faith if you stop believing when things go wrong. The depth of your faith is tested when things go wrong.

You can’t say you really have faith if you give up when things get tough. That’s not real faith, that’s pretend faith. Someone who has true faith in themselves and on This Journey will press on no matter what the circumstances are.

There is no challenge too small for someone who is rooted in faith. There is no time that is too hard, because those with faith keep their ideal outcome in mind and know that they are stronger than their circumstances.

It’s a well known fact that faith the size of a mustard seed can move mountains. If money is tight, if no one believes in your dreams, if you just want to give up, remember you have a GIGANTIC TRUST FUND of faith that you can use.

Get busy spending your faith every day; it can never run out. Your dreams are real. Take action to make it so. Don’t give up. Just press on one day at a time – the dawn will break, my friend, the dawn WILL break!

Helping Live Your Dreams

When it comes to personal growth, there are so many topics, ideas, systems, thoughts and paths to choose. Eventually, they will all lead back to this one Truth: what you are seeking is within you.

In my life, I have had three major revelations that have helped me step out of thoughts of fear and lack and step into a life of greater & greater abundance.

Here they are:

1. Your Path will support you in manifesting your Purpose because It created you to do so.

2. Love is where you come from and It is your birthright. It is a basic principle to Love your Creator, Love yourself and Love your fellow beings with the same Love that you have for yourself.

3. Things always workout for the best.

By slowly realizing these principles above, my life has gone from itty-bitty tiny to huge.

 

If it’s true that the Path will support me in my purpose, then that means any thoughts I have and actions I do that are not aligned with my purpose are actually making my life harder, more stressful and less full. All those fearful thoughts of lack, all those doubting thoughts about whether I will be taken care of or not, have never proved to be true. What I had to do was sacrifice my ego’s desires and let go of any past identity of what I thought I “deserved” and instead, accept the gifts of my journey. From fragile beginnings the roots of my journey have begun to support a stronger hold on Life.

 

This will be the same for you. You WILL be supported, not in the way that you want to be, but in the way that you NEED to be.

 

If it’s true that Love is where you came from and that you gotta love your fellow beings the way you love yourself, it’s important that you love yourself; because if you hate yourself, then that means you’ll hate your neighbors, too. So it’s vitally important that you get to work on loving you. Eventually as you grow in the Love for yourself, you will be more and more full, and be able to share that love with others.

 

If you believe that things always work out for the best, then this will give you an empowered point of view through which to interpret the events of your life. When things go “wrong”, you’ll know it’s for the best and then make the best of it. This point of view is sooooo important to incorporate into your life. If you do, you will be able to overcome any challenge. And challenges will come on Your Path.

 

I’d love to hear your thoughts on these principles; they have helped me through good times and bad times. I believe if you incorporate them into your life, they will help you live your dreams, too.

What is Grace

Grace has been on my mind a lot lately.

There are many definitions of Grace. The one that jumps out at me is two simple words, “a reprieve”.

That is to say that Grace is a phenomenon on This Journey that, even when we make all kinds of mistakes, when we mess up, when we fall down, we are given a reprieve from our mistakes.

I believe that the energy that runs This World is Love. So, a way to capture this idea is to say that it is by the Grace of the Love of My Journey that I can mess up time and time again and still make it through life happy and fulfilled. We were born to learn and tune into to this Love energy.

I can’t tell you how many mistakes I have made. Everything from thinking food, drugs and alcohol were the solution to my unhappiness, to thinking my own self-importance (aka Ego) was more important than the well-being of my fellow peers.

If this were an un-Loving World, then putting my ego first, trying to fill myself up with things other than Love and many other mistakes, would have meant that I would have been doomed to a life of sadness, loneliness and never being fulfilled.

But as I began to turn my thoughts towards Love (of my Creator, of myself and of my family and friends), towards being of service and towards solving the problems of others, life began to change. And it was THROUGH making the mistakes that I learned that there was another way.

It was the pain (at sometimes BIG pain) that eventually led me down a path of wisdom. And I was a stubborn student. I had to be brought right to the brink to finally change my ways.

I believe it was by Grace that I met people when I did, who handed me the books, or said the words that I needed to hear in that exact moment. It was Grace that kept me alive through my own foolishness as a young woman. It was Grace that helped make my life what it is today. There is NO WAY I could have done all these things by myself.

To me, Grace is the Love of our Journey in action and it is something that ALL of us can receive simply because we are all children of This World. Grace is a force that exists, not because we always get it perfect; Grace exists for us in spite of the fact that we don’t get it perfect.

I’ve found that Grace has touched my life in increasing amounts, as I take my eyes off of myself and turn towards focusing on Love. It’s almost as if there is a current of wind that is Grace and it is by setting the sail of Love that we can catch it’s current.

No matter what you’re going through, no matter what has happened in the past, I strongly believe that Grace is available to you if you simply turn from your, thoughts of fear and ego to thoughts of Love. Your Journey wants you to be happy. Can you say the same thing about yourself?

I hope that wherever you are, Grace touches your life today and that you can love yourself as much as Your Path loves you.

Removing the word SHOULD….

It’s so important to put the loving first.

 

Love of yourself and then love of others. People can feel your loving most, not with words, but with actions and presence.

 

Instead of trying to correct, change or otherwise influence those you love, just meet them where they are, right now, and love them there.

 

This includes you. Meet yourself where you are. If there is anything you want to change about yourself, first accept where you are and love it. Acceptance and love of where you are, right now, makes change and transformation much easier. Instead of fighting against a negative self-image, you are embracing a positive self-image. As a result, the process of change and transformation is joyful rather than stressful.

 

Another way to meet yourself and others where you are is to drop the word “should” from your vocabulary. In truth, there is nothing you should have done differently; there is nothing they should have done differently; there is only reality, your acceptance of it as it is, and a gentle transformation of it moment by moment to a more loving state.

 

When you should all over yourself & others, you have stepped out of love and into fear.

 

Nestle into self-love and acceptance of the moment. All good things flow to the humble heart that knows all is well and getting better.

 

So, in your loving today, don’t love them and yourself if they are only the way you want. Love them and yourself where you are right now. Watch what beauty happens

Possibility is in YOUR Reach

Here’s a major block to getting what you want: scarcity or lack of consciousness.

 

What’s that mean? It means believing that there is not enough to go around. Doesn’t matter what you think it is, this applies to all forms of manifestations.

 

Love, money, success, happiness, whatever.

 

Buying into the belief that there is not enough will only hinder you.

 

Why? Well, first of all, in an INFINITE world the thought that there isn’t enough is just a straight lie.

 

This world is naturally abundant; it is we, the humans, who don’t understand this, and as a result create the temporary “experience” of lack. But, if we look deeper, we will see lack is just a belief we’ve bought into.

 

Don’t believe me? Try to count all the grains of sand on a beach, or all the cells in your body. There are TRILLIONS of cells in your body and even more grains of sand on this earth.

 

Some of the wealthiest people became wealthy during recessions and the Great Depression. Even recently companies like Groupon (which Google offered to buy for BILLIONS and was turned down) and Facebook are thriving and experienced huge growth during the recession.

 

This isn’t about lack of resources, love or friendship in the world. This is about a lack of inner love, possibility and friendship.

 

When you truly belong to yourself, when you trust your Higher Power, when you accept yourself, claim your talents and see possibility in the world, life starts to change.

 

Lack is an inner experience, not an outer reality. The reason why there is lack in the world is because human beings are not in alignment with the natural way of things. The majority of us are driven by fear and the belief in lack and separation from each other, so that is what most of us experience.

 

But we, the Seekers on The Journey perceive differently. We believe and experience an infinite supply. We are already connected to all that we wish to manifest. We leave room for miracles, synchronicity and GRACE to show up in our lives. We are co-Creators of our lives and so we are not victims of the way most people believe life to be.

 

We know there is more than enough out there and that we are more than enough “in here”. So there is no chase. There is only enjoyment of the present moment. When we want a new experience, we shift our intention, change our actions and persist with faith that all things are being done for our greatest good.

 

This shift from lack to abundance thinking is a game changer. Try it for one year, make your thoughts, intentions, actions and beliefs line up with the natural abundance of This Journey and see what happens.

 

I can promise you this, dear Reader- life will NEVER be the same again!

Forgiving

Part of being free means learning how to forgive. Forgive yourself first and then extend that forgiveness to those who have harmed you.

You see, one of the biggest misconceptions about forgiveness is that by forgiving someone we somehow make right what they did. We believe that if we forgive, then we condone their actions.

 

Nothing could be further from the truth.

 

You see, your dreams and your Journey are present time things. They know nothing of the past and are unconcerned with the future. Dreams manifest in the now. The energy of your Journey only exists now. There is no other time that it can exist.

 

So, forgiveness breaks our chains with the past. It helps us to learn from the past and no longer let any traumatic experiences dictate our present moment. That way, we are free to manifest here and now, no longer ruled by the events of the past.

 

Forgiveness is actually a very selfish thing. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you condone the wrongs; forgiving someone means you are no longer willing to let pain from the past hold YOU down from living your dreams.

 

Dreams and your Highest Potential take major energy to create. If you’re too busy using your energy and attention to keep the past alive, there is no way you will muster enough energy to bring them into reality.

 

So, today, not for them, but for YOU, forgive them. Forgive them with all your heart. Create enough space and acceptance in your heart so that no event of the past can harm you any longer. Let go of the pain and step into this present moment renewed and re- energized.

 

Forgiveness is the business of love. Your energy and attention has to be in there, here and now, for you to be able to take action in the now for your dreams and Highest Potential to materialize.

 

Forgive them, not for their sake, but because your dreams are counting on you to.

Your Gifts Need to be Shared to the World

Ask for what you want. Think big and ask big. In an infinite world even the largest request is small.

The key is don’t ask from your ego; ask from your heart. The ego asks because it wants to be superior, made larger and more significant. The heart asks because it wishes to share, heal and inspire the world. When you have a large vision and know your purpose, ask for it in all the biggest ways you can. Know that you have value and that your gifts need to be shared with the world.

We actually need you to think big and ask big. It is the gifts that you bring forth from within, from your heart that are inspired by Your Journey that will change, heal and inspire this world. We keep thinking someone else is going to do it, but the truth is, my friend, it is up to YOU to help heal and change your part of the world.

You can’t do that when you’re small. You can’t do that when you’re not living your purpose. You can’t do that if you don’t have the courage to ask for what your heart desires.

Check this out! The gift that you want to give to this world from the depth of your heart will not only increase the quality of your life, it will actually help OTHER people, too. So if you don’t have the self-esteem right now to ask for yourself, ask then for those that will be inspired, moved and healed from your gifts being revealed to the world.

Jesus, in the Gospel of Thomas, said it best – “If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what do you do not bring forth will destroy you.” What you bring forth from your heart will not only save you, my friend, it will help to save our planet as well.

Knowing that, how can you NOT ask for what your heart desires?

Addiction

Most human problems are created by our inability to properly feel and express our feelings.

 

Example: addiction. An addiction from my point of view is a way of distracting yourself from yourself. So, instead of feeling your feelings you’re: eating, drinking, working, sexing, drugging, being violent, etc.

 

Addicts from my experience and point of view are not just homeless bums on the street looking for drugs and alcohol. Addicts are people who run from their feelings and suppress them in unhealthy ways. I’m not a psychotherapist or a doctor. This is a definition I’ve come to through my own experience with addiction.

 

Another way to think of it is this: an addiction is an unhealthy habit that takes you further away from your Soul and the presence of your Journey in your life.

 

My life’s aim has been to, one day at a time, replace unhealthy addictions for healthy habits. I’ve found the root of my success has been my ability to feel and express my feelings in constructive ways.

 

Now, most of the time, when I feel a negative feeling, an impulse to consume, chase or fill up a void inside me, instead of going outward, I go within. I stop, focus on my breath and let my feelings come up. Then I write them down, or get creative and write a poem, draw or exercise. I just channel the energy differently.

 

And what happens is that instead of keeping them down and needing to cover them up, I have space and distance from my emotions. Day by day I begin to understand the negative thoughts, beliefs and emotions that trigger my “addictions” and instead of letting them rule my life, I see them just as thoughts.

 

Then, the more distance I get from these thoughts, the greater my ability is to choose a new thought and new action that is healthy, constructive and going towards making my dreams come true. It just takes a little courage to peek beneath the surface and see what’s there.

 

Remember, as Joseph Campbell says, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.”

Press On….

It’s amazing to me, how many people are afraid of the word “no”, ESPECIALLY when it comes to intimate relationships and being an entrepreneur.

 

I’ve seen in my own life and in the life of many of my friends that we tend to spend so much time avoiding a “no”, that we waste time, and instead of marching right through our fears and on to the next, we delay, delay, delay.

 

The logic goes something like this:

 

We delay getting a “no” because if we get a “no” then we will be rejected, and if we’re rejected it means we are unlovable, unworthy and our dreams aren’t real. And feeling those feelings of rejection is almost worse than our feelings of fear surrounding death. So, our lower self does everything it can to avoid those feelings. It procrastinates. It overeats. It drinks too much. It works too much. It avoids tough conversations with loved ones. It’s passive aggressive and it runs from those who expose us to those critical deeper truths about ourselves.

 

But see, that way of thinking isn’t true. Getting a “no” can be painful, but it’s not final. Edison tried 10,000 times before he got it right. Fred Smith, the founder of FedEx, was laughed at by his business professors at Yale for his idea of FedEx and even got a C on his presentation (his net worth is now $2.1 billion). And on and on the story goes.

 

Because you are a Seeker on your Journey your duty to your Highest Self, to your dreams and to those not yet on their Journey, is to invite the rejection into your life and then be unphased by it. You see, there is truly no such thing as rejection or failure. Rejection and failure are outcomes only of the mind, but not of reality. In reality, if someone says “no”, it’s just a result. It’s impersonal. You take this result personally and call it “rejection” or “failure”, but The Journey just calls it a result.

 

So, if you want to live your dreams, take Edison’s approach and instead of seeing “failure”, see each attempt that didn’t work as a result and as one step closer to your goal, because you now know one more thing that didn’t work. This means you are actually smarter and wiser than you were before. This is simply part of the learning process.

 

Taking things personally will not help you make your dreams comes true. So, know that when you produce results that do not match your expectations, do not call it rejection or failure and then create some silly sob story about yourself. Just be full, learn your lessons and know that the perfect person and outcome is on the way. A delay is not a denial, my friend, and a short-term “no” does not mean a final “no”.

 

Press on. Press on with all your heart and get busy producing results.